Winter often feels like the season we simply get through. It’s cold, dark, and stripped of the vibrancy that other seasons seem to carry so effortlessly. For years, I felt the same. Winter, to me, was a time to endure—a season that demanded resilience but offered little in return.

Then came the winter when everything changed.

I remember sitting in my living room one late December evening, staring out the window at the bare trees silhouetted against the fading light. Outside, a thin layer of frost coated the ground, and everything felt impossibly quiet. Inside, I felt just as raw, stripped bare by a season in my life that had left me uncertain and unsteady. I was caught between wanting to move forward and feeling stuck in place, unsure of what to hold on to and what to let go of.

That night, I lit a single candle, something I’d done countless times before, but this time was different. The flickering flame seemed to hold a lesson I couldn’t quite put into words. As I sat there in its warm glow, I realized I didn’t need to force answers or find solutions. Winter wasn’t asking me to solve anything—it was inviting me to rest, to reflect, and to simply trust in the quiet work happening beneath the surface.

​As a child growing up I frequently sensed a distinction—I seemed to possess a level of perception that captured details overlooked by individuals. It was, as though every sound, every feeling and every change in the environment had an impact, on me. When I entered spaces I could sense the emotions of everyone clinging to me. Even a casual comment or critique would resonate in my thoughts for days pulling me into a whirlpool of uncertainty. At that moment, in my life when I was unaware of it yet fully feeling it within me – this heightened sensitivity I possessed had a label attached to it. I was labeled by those around me as "too sensitive" or "too weird". Once by a student in a community college night class, "too deep" is what he told me when I read into the group assignment a little too much. Yep, that one stayed with me for a while. It turned out that I was identified as a Highly Sensitive Person (commonly known as an HSP).

I used to view this characteristic as a flaw, for quite some time. It made me feel lost and uncertain, about how to handle it all. However one day in my twenties, I stumbled upon a women's circle event and met a special someone who faced this very situation. She was younger than me, but fully owned her "sensitivity". She shared with me how it was not only accepted but highly encouraged by the people who raised her and she grew into it wholeheartedly with their support and guidance. She was taught to establish boundaries, embraced different practices of mindfulness and gradually discovered power in what she might have at first considered a weakness. Motivated by her experience I began to investigate methods to foster my sensitivity and develop strength. Through my journey of exploration and self discovery I came to realize that this was not a problem to be solved. Rather a truth to be embraced and respected. 

After conducting research, exploring, training, practicing mindfulness with a dose of self kindness and self-compassion thrown in the mix I've discovered that having a level of sensitivity can actually be a blessing. I'd like to take this opportunity to share my insights and discuss how scientific evidence, (yes- I've gone down the rabbit hole on this one) also backs the notion that sensitivity combined with resilience can pave the way, for a fulfilling existence, not to mention the skills developed for the exact work I do in the world today.

Exploring the Depth of Sensitivity; Understanding Highly Sensitive Individuals.
Not all sensitive people are fragile or overly emotional; as Dr. Elaine Aron highlighted this concept before us all and revealed that about 15-20 percent of the population fall into this category of being highly sensitive individuals. They  tend to process things at a deeper level, with heightened emotional awareness and empathy skills that are above average. Despite the tendency to feel overwhelmed in settings due to our heightened sensitivity levels; being an HSP comes with its set of special qualities such, as creativity prowess combined with profound connections and emotional intelligence. 

Unraveling the Science of Sensitivity and Strengths
Neuroscience (here we go😏) provides understandings into the reasons, behind why sensitive individuals perceive life with such depth and intensity. Studies indicate that people with sensitivity exhibit increased brain activity in regions for empathy, consciousness and emotional processing – particularly in the insula and mirror neurons. This heightened awareness enables us to capture the nuances of our environment. Can also result in feeling overwhelmed, at times. Uhh, yeah😣.

It's a relief to know that neuroscience tells us that resilience is something we have the power to develop as nurture in ourselves and others too! The idea of neuroplasticity—how our brains are capable of transforming and creating pathways—implies that by being attentive and purposeful, in our efforts every day, people who are sensitive individuals (HSP) could improve their fluency of emotions and fortify their ability to bounce back from challenges, in life. This is something I'm having to learn to refine even more now in my mid-forties: resiliency.

Practicing mindfulness techniques such, as meditation has been shown to soothe the system and improve regulation while also boosting the prefrontal cortex's functions in decision making and emotional regulation. By engaging in these practices sensitive persons (HSP) can acquire the skills to handle their emotions more effectively and decrease instances of feeling overwhelmed. This is why I teach what teach...because I need it the most. I have first-hand, personal experience and real-world practice. As I write this post, I'm literally connecting the dots with my behind-the-scenes studies in the "science" part of it. Which has been enlightening to say the least.

Tips, for Developing Resilience as an Individual with a High Sensitivity Level 

• Engage with the practice of mindfulness and meditation. Practicing mindfulness is a way to stay centered in the moment and ease stressors according to research findings that suggest it can positively impact brain function and enhance stress management skills.
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  Simple Suggestion. Begin your day with a five minute session of deep breathing, in the morning to center yourself in the present moment and calm your mind from distractions and worries before gradually expanding this practice over time.
  
  
• Establish Limits Without Feeling Guilty. As an (HSP) you may often find yourself influenced by the emotions of those, around you in various ways and directions. It is important to establish boundaries to protect your energy reserves and wellbeing. Trust me. I know this one all to well. Learning to decline requests without experiencing guilt is an aspect of building resilience and self care capabilities. It's really okay to set healthy boundaries for yourself.
  
  When you start to feel tired or exhausted in the future try saying quietly to yourself "It's time for me to take a break and recharge." You might be amazed, by how setting this simple boundary can make a difference. 

 

• Make self care rituals a top priority in your routine. To ensure wellbeing and balance, for HSP individuals who handle information loads daily; it is crucial to prioritize self care practices such as practicing yoga or immersing in nature to boost levels and promote equilibrium, in mind and body. One of my favorite self care rituals is mindfully sipping a nice cup of herbal tea at the end of the day.
  
  Here's a suggestion, for you. Why not set aside some time each week for self care activities that bring you joy? Whether its writing in a journal. Simply unwinding in an environment. Making this small commitment, to your own wellness can have lasting benefits. 

 

• Foster Emotional Intelligence. Recognizing and identifying your feelings can empower you to control them according to neuroscience research that indicates assigning labels to emotions triggers brain regions that can lessen the strength of emotional reactions. I highly suggest downloading the emotional wheel workbook that I provide here on the website. It's very helpful in developing a language for your feelings. This is definitely something important many of us are not aware of, that I believe is actually so essential, not only for our own wellbeing, but within our relationships as well.
  
  When you start to feel like everything's too much to handle, at once pause and reflect on your emotions by asking yourself questions, like "What exactly am I feeling at this moment?". Why am I feeling this way?" This simple act of acknowledging your emotions can make it easier for you to take back control of the situation. 

 

• Remember to be kind, to yourself m'kay? People who identify as persons (or HSP) often have a tendency to be quite tough, on themselves; however resilience is cultivated by showing oneself kindness during challenging times specifically. Studies indicate that practicing self care and compassion not alleviates stress but also enhances ones fortitude significantly. 
  
  When you find yourself getting caught up in self criticism thought storm take a moment and consider if you would express these words to a dear friend. Be kind, to yourself just as you would to someone you really care about.
  
  
• Establishing a network of individuals is key. Feeling extremely sensitive can sometimes lead to a sense of isolation; however developing resilience becomes easier when we connect with individuals who appreciate our requirements and boundaries. Receiving encouragement from individuals who comprehend your sensitivity can truly boost your confidence and strength. 
  
  Don't hesitate to talk to your loved ones, about your requirements honestly sharing why you value moments of peace or short breaks and how they can assist you. 

Viewing sensitivity as a strength rather than a weakness can be empowering
Having a sense of sensitivity is not a weakness. A valuable asset to cherish and nurture in oneself with mindfulness and self care practices in place to help you grow stronger, from within despite the challenges you may face daily with an open heart and understanding towards those around you in this world that craves genuine connections now more, than ever before. 

 Embrace your emotions and inner strength; you'll discover that you're not merely enduring but flourishing.  ​

​🌕✨Full Moon Lunar Eclipse in Pisces, 09.17.24 ♓✨
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On September 17, 2024 the sky gifts us a magical combination: a Harvest Full Moon in dreamy Pisces, coupled with the potent energy of a Lunar Eclipse. This blend of lunar energies sets the stage for a powerful time of transformation. Full Moons already symbolize completion and clarity, but when paired with an eclipse, that energy becomes even more intense, opening the door for deep emotional and spiritual shifts. With the Sun in practical Virgo at the same time, we're invited to balance the mystical with the grounded.

🌕Full Moon in Pisces♓: Emotional and Spiritual Waters:
Pisces, ruled by the ethereal Neptune, is the sign of dreams, intuition, and spiritual surrender. When the Full Moon illuminates this sign, it stirs the waters of the subconscious, urging us to explore our emotions and inner wisdom. This is a moment to let go of what no longer serves us, to heal, and to open ourselves to deeper spiritual insight.

Energies to Embrace:

• Emotional Release: Full Moons are a time of letting go, and in Pisces, this release feels especially tied to our emotional well-being. It's a chance to heal old wounds and free yourself from the emotional baggage you've been carrying—whether it’s guilt, fear, or resentment.
• Spiritual Connection: Pisces invites us to tap into the divine, making this Full Moon perfect for deepening your spiritual practice, whether through meditation, prayer, or quiet reflection. It's a time to tune into your higher self and receive the spiritual downloads that are waiting for you.
• Compassion & Empathy: This energy also encourages kindness—toward yourself and others. With heightened empathy, it’s a beautiful time to heal relationships and extend compassion to those around you.
• Creativity & Inspiration: Pisces is a sign rich with imagination. During this Full Moon, let your creativity flow—whether through art, writing, or even daydreaming. Allow inspiration to move through you, without overthinking it.

Our radiant Moon isn't just in her full illumination at this time, there's also a lunar eclipse added to this astro mix!
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🌒The Impact of the Lunar Eclipse: Transformation and Revelation🌒
Lunar Eclipses supercharge the energy of the Full Moon, acting as a cosmic reset button. They often bring about pivotal events, sudden realizations, and powerful endings that lead to new beginnings. In Pisces, this eclipse reveals emotional truths and spiritual insights you may not have been ready to face before. Sidenote: gah, I'm feeling this one personally.

Energies to Work With:

• Sudden Realizations: Eclipses are known for bringing clarity, often shining a light on things that were hidden. This may be the moment when you finally see something clearly, especially in areas where you've been unsure or in denial.
• Letting Go: Or letting flow--either away or out. Eclipse energy encourages us to release what's no longer aligned with our soul’s journey—whether that’s relationships, old habits, or outdated beliefs. It’s time to surrender and trust the process. Allow yourself a bit of an upgrade so-to-speak.
• Heightened Sensitivity: With Pisces being such a sensitive, watery sign, you might feel more emotionally and psychically attuned than usual. Be gentle with yourself and honor what you’re feeling. Practice self-care and find soothing things that ease your sensitive soul.
• Spiritual Awakening: Pisces’ mystical energy is amplified by the eclipse, making this a time of deep spiritual shifts. Trust in the universe, trust in yourself to be the great healer you'll ever know to let go, and allow the transformation to unfold.

Checking in with the current solar energies, the Sun offers a bit of grounding energy, hope this helps!

☀️ Sun in Virgo: Grounding and Refinement ☀️
While Pisces pulls us into the depths of our dreams and emotions, the Sun in Virgo provides a grounding influence. Virgo is all about details, analysis, and practical improvement. Together, these energies ask us to find balance between the ethereal and the practical.

How Virgo and Pisces Interact:

• Dreams vs. Reality: Virgo’s earthy energy brings a necessary contrast to Pisces’ dreamy flow. While Pisces wants to surrender and trust, Virgo asks us to stay organized and take care of the details. Finding balance between these forces is key.
• Service to Others: Both signs are deeply connected to service—Pisces through empathy, Virgo through practical action. This Full Moon eclipse invites us to combine these energies, showing compassion while also being of real, tangible help to others.
• Holistic Healing: Virgo’s focus on health complements Pisces’ spiritual healing. It’s the perfect time to integrate mind, body, and soul, through practices like yoga, meditation, or any wellness routine that speaks to you.

🌟Why This is an Auspicious Event🌟
The combination of a Full Moon in Pisces and a Lunar Eclipse creates a cosmic opportunity for deep transformation. With the Sun in Virgo, we’re supported in applying these spiritual insights in real, practical ways. This is a time to:

• Release Deep Patterns: With the eclipse energizing this Full Moon, it’s the perfect moment to let go of long-held emotional patterns and beliefs that have been weighing you down.
• Awaken Spiritually: Pisces’ connection to the mystical is intensified, making this an ideal moment for spiritual awakening and psychic expansion.
• Balance Spirituality and Practicality: The Sun in Virgo reminds us that spiritual insights are best used when they can be grounded in practical actions. Use this energy to blend imagination with a plan, so your dreams can become reality.
• Embrace Change: Eclipses often signify fated changes. This one asks you to surrender to the flow of life, trusting that the changes happening now are in your highest good.

🌸Affirmation for the Full Moon Eclipse🌸
"I release the past with grace and trust in the universe’s plan. I embrace the flow of life, balancing my dreams with practical steps, and align with my soul’s highest purpose."
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This (Harvest) Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse in Pisces offers a powerful moment to go deep within your emotional and spiritual realms, while grounding yourself in reality. It’s a time to let go, heal, and open to new possibilities. 🌕✨

I've become like frost. Frozen time. Frozen on the outside, I wither away into a new dimensional pocket. A liminal space of uncertainty and peace. But, inside this warm tomb, life stretches out to thaw.

Here, there are lots of things to tend to. Many things to burn away. Ties to untie, old programs to witness die slowly and become a dwindling smoke. No new replacements just yet. Just being in the emptiness of it all. The emptiness that is silently loud. Begging for me to give up on trying to control the act of listening...deeply.

I grieve.

The versions of myself it took to get here do not have to become severed, wounded, bleached-out, seperate entities lost to the psychic realms. They belong here with me. All of them. They will try integration and then maybe some will retire. Some will transform back into water, ice, frost, frozen, solid. They will thaw come Spring when it is their time to be renewed into new form. Whole stars in the dark backdrop of the night sky.

I shadow work.

My existence becomes intentional. I kiss the reflection in the frozen ice crystals. I love all that has been deemed unloveable. I hang to dry all of the tear-drenched wild truths about why I'm really here and what I'm really doing. I experience the simpleness of it all. Especially when that blanket of ice creates a contrast so great, I see it with my own naked eyes. My irises feel a bit of the scrape of the harsh reality that my ego has did it's best to get me here and keep me alive.

I ache.

This darkness bids on life. It is whats there before the light interupts and adds definition. I dive deep into all the cracks and crevices reclaiming what was lost. Discovering what needed to be found. Remembering what it's like beyond the body, bones and brain. A spirit that is eternal. A soul who knows the way. Always. All ways.

​I change. Again.

​So many of us, let's be honest- are done with zoom gatherings. I get it. I did multiple online training/workshops over the past two years and I am tired of showing up on zoom to take in, yet again, more information. Not to mention: the masking, the anxiety of being with new people...yes even virtually. I'd much rather be in "process mode" or at least a soft space to drop into. Truthfully, that space looks a lot like alone-time! Or doing my own thing, carving out a self-processing journey. I loved having the right support of a guide, but I require lots of space to feel out my own intuition, senses, ideas, creativity, knowing, wisdom, deep truths.

I bet it's my age. Or could it be we're all overly saturated with information because it's so readily available at our fingertips and in an instant?

When I was in my teens, before the internet, going to the library or a local bookstore was how I sought out wild topics of interest. Because I'm GenX, I remember when the internet became a "thing", but there was also the fact that we were poor and access to a computer did not happen until my 20's. I remember joining a correspondence course to learn about a very taboo topic at the time: witchery! Shortly after, I enrolled into a "Goddess-studies" correspondence school and took my journey through the traditional year and a day to become Priestess through email projects, reading required texts and "email check-ins with the High Priestess. I was young and wouldn't grasp the role of Priestess until my 30's. In there somewhere, during that time, I also experienced multiple hardships that broke me open not to mention all the traumas experienced in childhood rushing through those broken-open floodgates. So...I was learning about all the things I needed the most. Of course, you know- the healing journey is an ongoing one. I'm still learning all the time. I continue to gather tools and practices that continue to help me "become" more and more, to go within, to deepen, to clear the waters, to gently mend and renew.

Eventually, I found a teacher through some extensive website searches for local energy healing teachers in my area. I finally decided to contact a woman that was offering Reiki and energy healing classes. After an interesting, and quite magical exchange- I knew working with her was a part of my path unfolding before me. She did workshops out of her home in very small intimate groups and for the next 11+ years I "apprenticed" with her and learned/healed so much.